With this baby, I feel very low stress... as far as the baby is concerned! :) Yet, this adjustment seems harder! Why? WHO is more of the right question.
Poor Eli is struggling and his struggles cause mom to struggle and let's just face it... my learned patience is now for babies, NOT for three my year old (who is currently making a grape drink, yogurt, soy dipping sauce concoction that I will probably have to see at some point, but at least he's cleaning the spills himself- go Eli!).
I am hoping that yesterday, we turned a corner. If anything, we've found a more effective way of disciplining him (I know we should have found something before now!- Eli is a hard nut to crack). However, having time outs consist of him standing, facing the wall with his nose on the wall, seems to be working so far (we have yet to attempt this during a full fledged, no reasoning possible tantrum so we'll see). We'll also see if this is only a honey moon phase of him obeying.
Most of all, I've realized that most of the problem lies with me. Sadly, as the mommy, I don't have the excuse of youth for my tantrums. I need to be more patient, have more charity for my family. I have so many GREAT and SHINING examples of loving mothers and wives in my life. I just need to be better at implementing what I see and learn.
Even though we've been struggling, I do LOVE LOVE LOVE my little boy, baby girl, and awesome husband. They are also examples of what I need. Eli loves unconditionally, Aaron is patient and Anna is a cuddly baby who LOVES to be held.
4 comments:
I understand and feel for you! Carrie, I'm sure you're a great mom. And I believe that we are placed in families with people who are best suited to help each other learn what we need to, even if it means directly confronting sometimes our biggest weaknesses. I felt like the awfullest mom when Grace was born, because I struggled with so many adjustments and feelings, that didn't seem to match the perfectly painted picture of motherhood so many other women portray. I appreciate that you are down to earth and positive, but not afraid to own up to life's challenges too. Good luck girl- you'll pull through!!!
Having two kids can be trying. I definitely have more patience for my younger one than my older one. I at times feel sorry for my poor oldest child that is the Guinea pig for my parenting techniques, but then she does something I just asked her not to do and I don't feel bad for her anymore, :). You seem to be such a great mom, I'm sure Eli will adjust.
I'm glad you are beginning to adjust! Hopefully the time outs for Eli will stick! What a silly boy! I hear you on the patience, I feel such a lack in that area and need to do so much better. I want more pictures of Anna!!!
You are a Wonderful Example to Me-Seriously, you are a Great Loving mom-
we all fall short, we just determine how we stand back up:)
hang in their.
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